Gary Thomas Newsletter
July 19, 2025
This week's Paid Subscriber posts:
Resent the Situation, Not Your Spouse
Lisa and I get a bit vulnerable in talking about a (very pleasurable) recent vacation experience, to share about a principle I write about in Making Your Marriage a Fortress: learn how to resent the situation instead of your spouse when your marriage faces frustrating circumstances. It's a tremendous blessing to our marriages when we learn to respond with empathy while being frustrated with the situation; even if that means having empathy for a spouse while we might be frustrated with them. This is a short video, but I think it addresses a vital marital practice.
Read this blog HERE.
This week's Free Subscriber posts:
Preparing Couples for a Marriage, Not Just a Wedding
While I believe God can use a difficult marriage to help us grow, I've come across couples of whom I've thought, "They should never have gotten married. Where was their pastor?" Premarital work is one of the most protective and vital things that a pastor can do. It shouldn't be rushed, and it needs to be about much more than preparing for a ceremony. This post chronicles what Lisa and I do with couples, what tools we use, and our philosophy behind spending so much time with each couple. I hope that those of you involved in premarital counseling will share some of your own tools and practices in the comments section.
Read this post HERE.
Sacred Marriage Video Study, Revised and Updated: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?
Your marriage is much more than a union between you and your spouse. It is a spiritual discipline ideally suited to help you know God more fully and intimately. Sacred Marriage shifts the focus from marital enrichment to spiritual enrichment in ways that can help you love your mate more. Everything about your marriage—from the history you and your spouse create, to the love you share, to the forgiveness you both offer and seek—is filled with the capacity to help you grow in Christ's character. This revised and updated edition includes all-new videos from Gary featuring new insights, illustrations, and teachings for the modern married couple.
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